Mary (Polly) ….. (probably Murphy)
In around 1835, 28 year old James E. Balkcom, the earliest identified male Balkcom ancestor of the Oklahoma Balkcom families, married a 20 year old girl named Mary who was maybe a family neighbor. James and Mary were most likely at the time living near their birth places in Duplin or Sampson County in eastern North Carolina, or possibly in Lowndes County, Georgia, with James probably working as a farm hand. Mary’s family name can’t be proven, but a good guess is that she was a daughter of one of the several Murphy families in the counties, some of whom lived very near to the Balkcom families. The 1978 Balkcom book1 guesses that Mary’s parents were Daniel and Elizabeth Murphy, who from 1840 through 1860 lived as neighbors to James and Mary Balkcom when they moved to Georgia and later to Alabama. Other researchers have accepted Murphy as Mary’s family name, but no proof has been found.
If it is true that Mary’s parents were among the Murphy families who were in Duplin County, North Carolina around 1800 then she may be a second or third generation descendant of immigrants to North Carolina from Ireland in the early 1700’s. The description of Murphy emigration below is a perspective on one of these families. The surname list in the Genealogy section links to the database of all researched names, including many Murphys who lived in the Duplin/Sampson County area between 1780 and 1830.
By 1836, no more than a year or so after their marriage, James and Mary had moved 400 miles south to Lowndes County in south central Georgia, bordering the Florida line. The 1840 Lowndes County Census shows that they had five children under age 5 in the household, two boys and three girls. In around 1845 they made another big move, this time to Dale County, Alabama where they were to settle permanently. In 1847 Mary had a son Brantley, the seventh of her children who survived to adulthood, and the ancestor of the Balkcom’s who moved to Oklahoma in around 1900.
James and Mary had a large family, and Mary at age 46 had 11 children in her household (although some were of adult age) along with husband James. If census information is accurate, Mary had her youngest child (Joanna) in 1864, which would have made Mary age 50. Because of her age it may be that this child was adopted, but the federal census clearly labels her as daughter of James. In 1870 Mary had seven in her household plus husband James. By 1880 at age 66, she still had two adult daughters and a boy, probably a grandson, in the household. Mary died in 1886, at the age of 72.
An unpublished book2 of compiled Murphy family history describes the origin of many of the Murphys who settled in North Carolina:
from the foreword: “The Murphys in North Carolina have been known for two hundred years for their contributions to political, religious, and social life in this colony and state. The name was originally McMurchie, but was changed to Murphy after Gaelic was suppressed. They originally came from the Island of Arran, on the west coast of Scotland and they belonged to the ancient race of Celts who refused to be Romanized or Anglicized. They later migrated to Ireland and were seated at Castle Ellis and Ouleartleagh in the barony of Ballaghkeen, in the eastern part of the country around Wexford. During the period from 1740 until the time of the American Revolution, large numbers of settlers from Scotland and Ireland settled in the Upper Cape Fear Valley of North Carolina. Among these were John Murphy, our first ancestor to come to this country, and his brothers, believed to be William and Timothy Murphy.“
Note, these Murphys are not proven ancestors of the Balkcom family. Their pedigrees have been extracted to the surname database in the Genealogy section.
- Jr. Banks McLaurin, Charles Van Baucom and Louanna M. Bawcom, compiler, The Baucom Families in the United States (Baucum, Bawcom, Baughcom, Balcombe, Balcom, Balkcom, etc.) (Lake Village, AR: Burney Bawcom, 1978)
↩︎ - Taylor, Michael Gilbert, The Murphy Family (1983), unpublished, found in the Leora H. McEachern Library of Local History in Rose Hill, NC ↩︎